Ally: 14 years old
Allyson was living in Biloxi, MS when Hurricane Katrina hit in 2005. It was on August 29th and it was her 9th birthday. Allyson, her mother, her brother, and an older sister evacuated from MS to AL to stay safe from the hurricane. Allyson’'s mother had been working at the Waffle House and had met a couple from AL when they would come and gamble. So when she was in need she contacted them for shelter with her kids. Allyson'’s dad was in jail again for shoplifting and drugs, so he was not with them. They arrived in AL and stayed with this couple for a few weeks. When the degree of devastation was realized and there was no way for them to go home, the kids were enrolled in school. A couple weeks into being in school every day, Allyson came home to find out that her mother had left and had no intention on coming back. She had a history of drug use and the needs to be back in her old lifestyle made her abandon her kids. Allyson was devastated. She was used to taking care of her younger brother and she tried to hold it all together for him. Over the next weeks this couple started punishing Allyson by hanging (yes hanging) her from a clothes line, tying her to a tree, not allowing her to eat, and full beatings that created black bruises up and down her back. All because she was not coping with the abandonment, not coping with being left with strangers who did not know how to love her through her behavior, she did not know how not to be a mommy to her brother. She had to be his protector and caretaker since he was born due to the drug use of her mom. Yes, she was only 9, but was made to be grown up far beyond her years due to a mom and dad who did not meet her needs the way they were supposed to. The older sister ran away, due to the situation, and wound up back with her mom and on drugs at the age of 15. Allyson and her brother were given to a young newlywed couple who wanted to rescue them from the abuse. Allyson was still not coping well with all the change and abandonment and she was place in a mental hospital 3 days before Christmas. She was put on strong meds to try to change her behavior and sent back to live with the couple who had her brother after about 3 months. She still did not meet the criteria of what a daughter should be like to this family and they again put her back in the mental hospital. This only made the problems worse for Ally. She was molested by other patients, bitten, beat up, and even put in constraints. She was there for another 3 months and put on 3 of the strongest Anti- Psychotic drugs on the market at the same time. Things seemed to go ok, but again due to the fact that she had issues left to deal with and they had no idea how to help her, they put her back in one final time for 6 months. When she was doing well, she went back to the couple, however, after only 2 months, they decided she was not for them and they put her in foster care. She lived in a wonderful foster home for 8 months as they helped her with coping skills and in school. They were not able to adopt her and turned to the Whyte’s to see if she was their “Forever Daughterâ€. She was still on the meds, but was doing really well. She still had a relationship with her brother and got to see him every couple weeks. The Whyte’s met her and knew immediately that she was created by God for them to love forever. Ally came to the Whyte’s and within 2 months time was off ALL 3 meds. How?? How could she not need these strong meds that these professionals had put her on for so many years? How could she be functioning in a home without her brother, without her birth family, without the need to be in a mental hospital or on meds? Could the answer be because she was loved unconditionally, she was taught the way to cope with loss and deal with her emotions, she was given security, she was given dreams, and she was given a family??? Those would definitely be true. But the real answer would be she was given true HOPE. Hope in knowing that she has a Savior, hope that she was created for a plan and a purpose, hope that she is accepted and loved just because she is alive. She just needed someone to believe in her, to tell her it was not her fault that her mother left, that it was not her fault her brother was not being cared for by her, that everything was going to be ok. Today, Allyson is a beautiful girl whose love for life is contagious. Not only has she learned to cope with all that life brings her, she has become the most loving person, she loves hugging everyone she comes in contact with, even strangers. She loves to cook, read, ride her horse, and spend time telling others about God. She has no emotional problems and God has even healed her of tone deafness in both ears for which she needed hearing aids. She loves to sing and write her own songs on the piano. Sadly, Ally has not seen her brother in over a yr and a half due to the choice of the family that has him. She has worked through her abandonment issues they caused her and truly trusts that one day God will restore the relationship with him. She dreams of helping people. However God will use her. She is the truth of what HOPE, LOVE, PEACE and a place to call HOME can give to a child.
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